Do your ‘wants’ create your ultimate success?

Financial Independence / Freedom / Ramblings

I was lying here yesterday, pretty medicated, with some random thoughts going through my head on success, wealth and an occasional pink bunny.

Just a quick background on the meds. I had a new type of procedure yesterday on my right knee. The doctor sucked stem cells out of my back, added some secret sauce, and then injected them into my knee cartilage. Kinda cool. The doctor who supervised had both his knees done and he told me he jogs again. I blew out both my ACLs playing beach volleyball and Ice Hockey. I still play but it really bothers me. So hopefully this will re-grow the cartilage and I’ll be like the bionic man. (As a side note – the nurse filmed part of the procedure and I might even post it up online. I was kidding around we should auction off some of the bloody rags on eBay. Okay maybe not a great idea – remember I’m on meds) 😉

Okay back to the point I wanted to throw out there and it’s around this question…

Do you have to want (and obtain) material things first to then turn your attention to more meaningful endeavors?

I found an interesting picture of me from 5th grade on Facebook today and it sorta started this chain of thoughts. Take a look – I’m the 2nd from the left on the bottom row.

Yanik Silver 5th grade class picture

My family is from Russia and immigrated to the U.S. in 1976. My Dad came over with $256 in his pocket for me, my Mom and my Grandmother. Just a year and half later, my Dad started his own company repairing (and then later selling) medical equipment. Even 8 years later times were still pretty lean as you can see from the knee patches and goofy shoes. Actually, I don’t think I had a pair of normal sneakers until 7th grade. (And yes, I definitely got made fun of constantly for that!)

It wasn’t until years later that my Dad’s company really started growing and blossomed into a multi-million dollar enterprise that things changed. I grew up working in the business starting with telemarketing latex gloves at age 14 and then even selling medical equipment to docs in person at age 16 when I got my license. It’s interesting how things come full circle because a doctor client of mine, Dr. Wei, gave me a Jay Abraham tape that turned on “the lights” about direct response marketing. And it was Dr. Wei who performed my knee surgery yesterday.

Like a lot of kids, I grew up fantasying about exotic cars with posters of Porsches and Ferraris on my wall. I remember for my Bar Mitzvah calling my parents up to light my final candle and I said something like, “I’d like to call up my parents who have given me everything I’ve ever wanted…except a Porsche.”

Back in 1998 I was just starting to get my entrepreneurial juices going and I attended a Brian Tracy 1-day seminar. He told everyone there to write down the 10 most important goals in our lives at the time.  Mine centered mostly around things or dollar amounts. I couldn’t find the notebook but it was something like:

•    Make $20,000/month in my own business
•    Drive a Mercedes SLK
•    Own a townhouse
•    Rolex watch, etc

One-by-one I knocked those all out without looking at the list everyday or taping it to my forehead or whatever “secret” I was supposed to use. (Actually I missed one goal – the Mercedes SLK. I actually got a much better SL55 AMG model). It was mostly the things that kept increasing on my goal list. A bigger house, a nicer car, nice trips, nicer watch, etc. until there really wasn’t much left that I really wanted.

Yes, I still love my Aston Martin but I quickly realized it was ‘just’ a car.

Quick side story: Actually, that really hit home to me spending time with my friend, Corey Rudl, before his untimely death. He had a new Lamborghini and we went off to the local smoothie place in La Jolla. Corey forgot he left his smoothie on the armrest and as he accelerated out of the parking out it spilled all over the interior of his car. He just sorta laughed and didn’t freak out like I might have. Previously, I never let anyone eat in my AMG or drink anything but water – but now I really don’t mind. In fact, I’m pretty lax with the car and have let a bunch of my friends drive it. (And I’ll let you drive it too if you want too if you’re the winner of a pretty cool contest for Underground® 5 attendees with the ultimate 007 day.)

So at some point you pretty much got all the toys you really need and then what’s left? To me, it boils down to experiences and relationships.  (Yes, there are still some ‘things’ I want like a beach house and maybe a private jet share – but not too much else.)

Maybe that’s why during the past few years that I’ve really gotten clear on the ‘Maverick Philosophy’ of Making more money, having more fun and giving more back! (Somebody the other day told me this is called a Venn diagram – nifty.) In fact, one of my big goal for 2020 involves getting 1,000,000 entrepreneurs to join this ‘movement’ that’s part of  Maverick Business Insider.

Maverick Philosophy

But I’ve been thinking lately – do you need to get the material things first before you can appreciate the other parts?

I’ll admit it. I really, really wanted my Mercedes AMG roadster. It drove me to create products and services to pay for it – but after the initial thrill wore off – there wasn’t much substance. The anticipation and journey was the best part.

Do you need the Rolex on your wrist before you realize it doesn’t really tell time very well? I used to wear my Rolex as a symbol of my success and new found wealth but I haven’t touched it in years. Today I have a nicer watch but it’s not a name most people would recognize. But maybe getting the ‘reward’ proved to myself I had arrived and could move on to bigger challenges and opportunities.

Some of the material wants really drove me in the beginning – however I still understood the underlying natural laws (like delivering 10x – 100x in value) would help me get the ‘thing’ I wanted. Now I’m much more focused on the bigger picture described in the diagram above. Personally I felt like I had to go through that phase to come out the other end (but maybe not everyone has to).

The unusual way to ‘stumble’ onto success…

There’s a profound theory I heard from R. Buckminster Fuller that says your true success is found perpendicular along the path to your original perceived goal.  For example, when I first started InstantSalesLetters.com back in 2000 – my end goal was to sell it for $500k to Stamps.com or someone like that. But on my way to building up that site – I had so many people ask me how I started making money so quickly that I began teaching. And that teaching became part of my success course for the last 8 years opening up one door after another. I would never have got on that track unless I was moving towards the original goal.  Same thing today, my next course is with my Maverick Business Adventures® and Maverick Business Insider companies – which wouldn’t have been formed without the contacts and connections made with my Internet business.

I’ve love to hear from people who have ‘made it’ (so to speak) and those who are still striving. Can you create a ‘rich’ life without getting the material things first that many of us (me included) initially wanted? I know some people are not motivated by material things and that’s great too. But I find an issue with some of those same people that believe making money is wrong or immoral. Somehow by being poor is more honorable. Umm…Bullshit.

I bet I’ll also get responses saying the happiest and ‘richest’ people are actually the poorest dollar-wise. Or money doesn’t buy you happiness.

Whatever.

I’ve said it before, I think money only amplifies who you are and what resources you have available to you.  If you’re a jackass before you had money – you’ll be an even bigger jackass. However, if you’re a generous and giving person – you now have more to give, etc.

I believe you can have it all…the complete package of profits, passion and purpose – but which road gets you there?

31 Comments

  1. Rob
    December 21, 2008, 12:21 pm

    Hi Yanik,

    How one gets to where they are going depends a lot on where they are starting from. It is all about the journey.

    For most of us self-made people (notice I left out any reference to money), material items like cars are a way to measure one’s success. My dream car is a tricked out Porche 911. I have never owned one and probably never will. For me the dream is better than the reality. And I’ve owned many Volvo’s, a Mercedes, and even an airplane.

    Life is a journey. There are many “seasons” in our journey.

    For most of us, when we are young we tend to think of ourselves. As we get older, and things like knees go bad and eyes go bad, we start to think more about our mortality and how fragile and special all life really is. So we turn to helping others.

    I remember learning of a plastic surgeon that practiced in California. He was a surgeon for the stars and charged big bucks. People questioned him, “why with all your skills do you work on people that don’t really need reconstructive surgery?” Little did anyone know, he spent 4 or 5 months a year performing FREE reconstuctive surgery for kids in 3rd world countries.

    Well, I hope this helps people in their own personal journey through life.

    Happy Holidays to all, whatever you might celebrate with your family and friends.

    Rob

  2. December 21, 2008, 12:29 pm

    Some people go their whole lives never truly “getting” that “stuff” isn’t what makes us happy — that it’s the experiences and relationships. I keep seeing reports on 3rd world countries in which the children have a genuine and obvious happiness about them.
    It’s always nice to see people figure this out before it’s too late…even better that you’re sharing it with others. All the best, Steve

  3. Damon Pace
    December 21, 2008, 12:39 pm

    Lots of good points here. I noticed that photo of you on FB the other day and thought to myself how humble of a beginning you must of had. I too grew up very poor. That experience has allowed me to be driven to take risks and know nothing could hurt me.

    I for one have not “made it” yet…or at least I don’t feel like I have. I’m 32 and I started a pretty good business which has allowed me to do the things I want; buy my mom a house, help my sister get off drugs, live where I want to and pretty much do anything I want. I have been struggling for the past year to think of what else I “need”, although I haven’t “made it” yet. I’m not driven by cars, watches or anything like that. I’m driven by building the life I want, having a great family and having great experiences. I think Aston Martin’s are the bomb…but I’m way too cheap to buy one. I don’t see the point.

    Anyways, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. Most people striving for success need to focus on “things” that drive them to work hard and be creative. Those “things” are not always material things. I have a feeling new entrepreneurs may appreciate your advice and realize that cars, watches and material things aren’t what they’re cracked up to be.

  4. Rod
    December 21, 2008, 12:40 pm

    Yanik,

    Good day to you. Although it’s nice to ponder whether material things are “really important” after the fact that you’ve obtained them, it’s still a fleeting fantasy for people, like myself, who yearns for the day when my hopes, dreams, and obtainment of “the good life” comes to pass. I just want to learn from the best. I need the tools, training, mentorship, and support to go swiftly into becoming the best I can be. Please help me make 2009 the best year ever for me.

    Respectfully,

    ROD

    * Rod – thanks for the comment. That’s what I’m curious about – do some of us *need* the material want to drive us to success. Yes, I can look back now and say it’s not as important. But can you get to that feeling (and still be financially independent without it). I think it’s possible. Or is it a phase we go through like Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Y.S. *

  5. Mike
    December 21, 2008, 12:42 pm

    Very good article. It makes me think at some point you might consider doing a book. It is every enjoyable reading your stuff. Wonderful style.

    I just heard a recorded call yesterday from a guy, Bruce Muzik. The call was on Mark Ryan’s blog I think

    Anyway, Muzik said wealth is what’s left if you were to take all the money away.

    Money being very transitional, but the know-how, the contacts, the “wealth” can always bring back the money, as Donald Trump among others has proven.

    So yeah, wealth is all that cool stuff you learn and know and the neat people that can and do help along the way. And while those things and people can’t be deposited into a bank, or be used to buy a fancy watch directly, the know-how, the contacts, the helpful advice is what allows one arrange things in such a way that the money sort of just “shows up”.

    You have a very nice writing style Yanik, I think a book is something to consider, to leave a legacy of sorts for future entrepreneurs long after you’re gone. I think you have things of value to say.

    –Mike

  6. December 21, 2008, 1:28 pm

    Great post Yanik.

    You know, I have a lot of “material” wants and dreams too. Some of which I’ve already achieved, some I am still working towards. And those wants and dreams DO get me out of bed and down the hall to my home office every morning.

    But the thing I’ve noticed is this. Whether we are “doing well” financially, or living paycheck to paycheck, I’m not happy, and my family is not happy unless we are taking the time (and have the intention) to ENJOY whatever we have.

    Really, I consider myself very lucky. There is no one I would rather spend my time with than my family. I have a fun, brilliant, (and gorgeous) girlfriend, and two beautiful girls. But when I am locked in my office and obsessing over my business, everything kind of gets out of whack. You know?

    I have had to be very intentional about leaving my work in the office and going out to spend time with my family. Cook for them, or whatever.

    The happiness definitely comes from sharing the stuff you have with the people you love.

    But I wholeheartedly agree with you about making sick amounts of cash being “immoral” or not “spiritually satisfying”. It’s bullshit, and honestly I think it’s a cop-out. That’s what people say who don’t have the sack to go out and create something themselves. If they really DO believe that, then my advice would be to re-examine your beliefs and possibly fire whoever you are getting your spiritual counseling from…

    Thanks for the inspiration. It’s always a pleasure to read your posts.

    Much Love!

    Josh

  7. December 21, 2008, 1:39 pm

    Hi Yanik,

    I’ve known and admired you for years – and your course is helping me to recover the retirement that I lost three years ago through some corporate politics.

    So Vikki and I have had three years of financial stress, but still have a good life with what we learned on the way here – broke to well off to broke again. And now, thanks to help from you and Dan Kennedy and Bill Glazer and Perry Marshall, we’re launching again.

    But we’ve been happy even while we’ve been down. We love our kids and grandkids and give where we can and laugh a lot and are VERY grateful for all the blessings and freedom we have here. We can crash and burn and still have the right to try it again. I’m emailing you my “Tom’s Twelve Truths” article that’s on my site. I think you’ll like it. For others, it’s at my site.

    Take care my friend. Good inspiration with your knee process. I was about to have one of my knees replaced, but I think I’ll investigate the stem cell thing. Happy Holidays!

    Seeya,

    Tom

  8. December 21, 2008, 1:46 pm

    Success is much more than having nice “stuff”. It is who we are. It is being in position to help lift others to success. Financially, Spiritually, Mentally and Physically.

    We were created to encourage and support each other.
    We really do need each other.

    Thanks for your article showing as Solomon did – the meaningless of ‘stuff”. when it is only for personal pleasure.

    Walter

  9. December 21, 2008, 2:30 pm

    As a seasoned individual I have witnessed many things in my life. While great wealth is not a prerequisite for happiness, it is difficult to give money to others if you have none.

    As Wallace Wattles says, “Poverty can be done away with, not by increasing the number of well to do people who think about poverty, but by increasing the number of poor people who purpose with faith to get rich.”

    If obtaining wealth is your goal it is a noble goal. You will touch others by doing so and show them it is possible should they desire it also.

    I appreciate your blogs and your committment to sharing with others.

    Happy Holidays,
    Michael

  10. Jean
    December 21, 2008, 2:37 pm

    Happy Knee Recovery Yanik!

    I like your article too.

    Here is what I believe…I think there has to be a balance…between making money and getting whatever it is you want..the car..the house.. and doing good work in the world you live.

    I am a life long do gooder…I babysat for free when I was a kid for my neighbor who was a single mom with four kids. I have been on the front lines of many “people issues” from Planned Parenthood to HIV/AIDS to domestic violence. I have had death threats in my last three out of four jobs…

    I have held people’s hands as they died and I have physically placed myself between victims and their abusers to keep people safe which is a trick cause I am only 4 ‘9″ tall and have never carried a gun! :)

    I have always treated the staffs in the agencies I directed (and there has been 5 of them) with respect and fought to get them the best benefits and work environment I could.

    What I did not do was take care of myself. Money was not an issue for me. No retirement, no 401Ks .. no problem…I will work for you anyway. Work 100 hours a week…no problem. The work needs to be done, I am salaried and there is not enough money to hire others to do it.

    Do I believe I made a difference in people’s lives…absolutely. Do I believe people are alive today because of the work I did….absolutely.

    Do I also believe I am paying a price for my total focus outward…absolutely.

    When I left my last position after ten years…I was physically and emotionally exhausted. I have spent the last almost 19 months recovering from pretty dramatic PTSD…all without insurance and the ability to work fulltime which has made life interesting.

    I am in a financial hole that makes buying food and paying the rent an ever present challenge. Do I regret any of the work I have done? No…what I regret is that as much as I made sure I had “everyone else’s back” I never made sure I was covering my own.

    Now I am on a new journery. I appreciate that people start by bootstrapping…it is certainly more of a challenge when you don’t have a boot…and are starting with a flipflop…it’s more of a challenge to get a hold.

    I have written a children’s book that I know kids need to read :) and I am working on several website ideas. My goal is to provide great products with good content, make a lot of money so I can relish the idea of financial security, write rather large checks to the agencies I use to direct so they can continue their good work and I can go have fun at a day spa…you guys may not appreciate it…but the day I can go for a day and just relax…will be the day I know I have come out of this very long and dark tunnel…into the next phase of my life.

    I don’t want people reading this to be saying…what a whiner…I am not whining. I am sharing from my perceptive what can happen when you are out of balance…unfortunately my out of balance wasn’t the other way working the same amount of hours and ending up with a dump truck full of money and only that to show for my life. :)

    Yanik…I like your stuff. I enjoy your writings and your materials. You have helped me define the lifestyle I want…thank you.

    As we approach 2009…here’s the to best year of all of our lives. -Jean

  11. December 21, 2008, 5:47 pm

    Yanik,
    Thank you so much for all the ways you “give” to those who want many of the same things you do. I agree, financial freedom is a much better platform with which to work from when trying to make the world we live in

  12. December 21, 2008, 6:34 pm

    Yanik,
    Seeing first hand your ease of access and reading your Moonlighting book, I resonate with your comments here. For me (at 39), my future dreams and goals lie more with living “comfortably” and more importantly, with a lifestyle that includes an internet income, and being able to travel and spend time with my loved ones. As your parents age, nothing can replace time and laughs shared, nothing. As I write this, I’m running my restaurant, and jumping back in the office to write. Do I love my business, YES! BUT… the restaurant lifestyle doesn’t give me the other aspects of what I crave most lately.
    For that, I say that I’m not motivated by “stuff” so much (wouldn’t hurt) but really from a sense of craving comfort, a more open schedule, and opportunity to develop so many ideas I have in my head.

    Do what you love, and the “stuff” will follow..

  13. December 21, 2008, 9:18 pm

    Hey Yanik,

    First off, great post man. I always look forward to reading your stuff.

    Secondly, I actually DO believe that you can get to your destination NOT wanting the material things first. This is mainly because of a gentleman that I met when I was first “introduced” to my entrepreneurial side.

    This guy is in Network Marketing and when he first started to make a good part time income from his business, his mentor told him NOT to change his lifestyle for at least five years. So he listened.

    And he worked very hard so his income grew exponentially within those five years… He said that he got addicted to saving and investing… watching his money grow and not really buying the cars and whatever.

    So I’m going to follow that same path… for five years I won’t spend it. I’ll invest it all and let it grow for me… THEN I’ll write a check for my first house… no payments baby! 😉

    You’re the man,

    Arman

  14. December 21, 2008, 10:39 pm

    Yanik, great post today. It pushed me over the edge, in a very good way.

    It helps me appreciate more, thank more, and discover even more to be thankful about.

    You will have good people contacting you soon to vouch for me. I want to giveaway your Underground Seminar as a prize. I’ll be in touch.

    Take care, and all the best with your recovery and in the future,

    Jeremy Nelms

  15. December 22, 2008, 12:48 am

    Yanik,
    People who make money because they view people as “human resources” die lonely and forgotten. The people who make money because they view people as the goal of making moeny are lauded and eulogized.
    I just finished “On Wings Of Eagles” and it pretty much embodies what you are talking about in this post. AND the people involved still made a boatload of money.
    Me? My perspective, which had been “enough $$ to be comfortable,” changed when my kids were born 8 weeks premature. It became “enough to give my kids the best life possible” – which is not only money. It’s time.
    I always used to say that you can’t buy milk with good intentions. But doing good work, I believe, puts an aura around you that people respond to.
    I think you’ve got a good aura, Yanik.

  16. Yoli
    December 22, 2008, 9:19 am

    Hi there – I am on my way to becoming “made”. However, I can see what you are saying. I bought myself a “Gucci” bag. The first I have ever owned and I thought it would make me feel awesome. It did for an hour. I look at it now and I wonder why I felt that I needed to have this recognition bag. Why couldn’t I feel awesome without it? I wound up going to Sam’s Club and buying a more functional bag that can carry all of my STUFF. I thought about what I would do with the money once I became made and it goes back to what I believed I would do with it since high-school. My whole family has passed away over the years from natural causes..cancer..heart..etc….blah blah blah. I have always wanted to buy a home outright and adopt children. I know what it feels like to have your family taken away and I would love to have the financial freedom to bring joy to a child’s life that has no family. Nothing wrong with wanting material things but I am learning that it won’t be enough.

  17. Suzanne
    December 22, 2008, 10:07 am

    I agree with Yoli. Family’s where it’s at. If you have money before you have a family, though, you have a huge advantage over most people who have a family before they have money. It’s seems to be harder to get money after you have the family. Particularly for women. Small children need 24×7 100% mental attention by their parents – they get their fingers into EVERYTHING. So you gotta tag-team with your children’s other parent. That means picking their other parent very carefully. If you both don’t have the same values and life goals, the whole thing can be a train wreck. But if you share the goal of raising a compassionate upstanding new generation, then there is great satisfaction in watching them grow up.

    Maybe that’s all TMI, but what is valuable is what you can take with you when you die. Material wealth must serve you, not the other way around.

    Suzanne.

  18. December 22, 2008, 1:08 pm

    I think everyone has different motivations and as you have experienced those motivations change as you and your life situation changes.

    For me, I use to be motivated by the cars and house. Now I do what I do so I can have more time with my family. My kids don’t care what I drive as long as they are riding along with me.

    I am also very blessed to have an incredible wife who supports and helps me with everything. If not for her support things would be much harder and I might have other motivations for the money. But my first goal was to make it so she could live the dream of being a stay-at-home mommy.

  19. December 22, 2008, 1:44 pm

    Hi Yanik, I’ve been thinking about your questions alot for the past 24 hours since I first read them. Coincidentally, I’ve also been listening to the audio of THE MILLIONAIRE NEXT DOOR which really uncovered some fascinating behaviors among self-made milliionaires. Big consumers they’re not!

    I’ve also been wondering if your early years didn’t contribute heavily to your creativity as an adult. As Geek Squad founder Robert Stephens says, “In the absence of capital creativity flourishes.” Paul Hawken is equally enthusiastic about ideas trumping capital when we’re building something uniquely our own.

    It’s a tricky balance, I’d say, but I also don’t think there’s any One Size Fits All Answer.

  20. Mike
    December 22, 2008, 4:10 pm

    Great post Yanik!

    I tend to think that for me, I visualize about the things I want like a nice car, home, financial independence, and the freedom to live my life the way I want
    to as the most important things in life. But what I think is more important to
    getting there is support and belief in from those you love. It seems without that it’s very hard to realize your dreams.
    Without supportive people in your life it is very hard to believe in yourself, especially when they don’t believe in what you’re doing and are negative about what you want to achieve.
    For those who have supportive people in their lives you are truly blessed indeed!

  21. Masoud A. Edalatkhah
    December 22, 2008, 10:10 pm

    Great post again Yanik. I’m glad to see more and more people like yourself spreading the word of giving. On a personal note, one of my top 3 goals in life is to drastically change someone’s life. Regards – ME

  22. December 22, 2008, 11:15 pm

    Yanik,

    Your posts really inspire me. I study all your sales letters a lot, and your blog posts really charge me to think positively. I just wanted to thank the time to thank you for all the incredible value you’ve been giving to your audience.

    –Verniel Cutar

  23. Trevor
    December 23, 2008, 5:18 pm

    Wanting and getting material things is in itself an experience…one that I think is not only okay, but necessary.

    Think of the things you learn as you go through the experience of wanting something like a Mercedes. You set goals. You focus on an end result. You learn to work hard, take chances and risks. You overcome obstacles, learn to fail forward, and also succeed.

    And while some may say that working hard for a nice car, a big house, or that case of $100 a bottle wine is selfish or not as worthy as working hard to give the money away to charity or some other philanthropic resource, I disagree. I believe it’s all part of the process…the evolution…and maturation of someone who is successful.

    Within all of us is the desire to have “things.” Actually being able to get them and experience them validates our hard work and perseverance. It’s accomplishing the dreams. The journey and the experience is every bit as important as the end result.

    The thing is, once you’ve succeeded and you now have many of the material items that you dreamed of, it’s on to the next phase of the journey…and that’s the phase where giving back becomes as exciting as the astin martin, the mansion, or anything else material.

    I also think that you don’t have to choose one or the other. That is, you don’t have to choose buying really cool expensive stuff over giving…and you don’t have to choose giving exclusively either. You can do both…and should do both.

    Life is about balance. It’s about being successful enough to do both…enjoy the finer things in life AND give back. If you have that balance in life then there should never be anything to feel guilty about.

    I hope that helps.

  24. December 24, 2008, 8:02 am

    This is a very good post, Yanik.

    I can sympathize with the way you grew up. We were a little bit better off, but my dad http://www.for-the-troops.com/2008/09/28/my-life-in-the-us-army/ came over her from Germany in search of a better life.

    He is a “simple” man, never wanting for much. He engrained that philosophy in us. Mind you, it’s not bad, just realistic. Not optimistic.

    But, as a high schooler, I started to dream the big dreams, just like you.

    However, I kept throwing up excuses: young parent (a child at 19), lack of experience, lack of knowledge, etc.

    Fast forward seventeen years…

    Now, finally, it’s all coming together. It all started when I met my key mentor, Ken McArthur, as well as meeting you at his JV Alert live event back in June (I was a volunteer there). That changed my life. In my way of thinking, and more importantly, in my way of acting.

    So, I now study SEO, traffic & copywriting. BTW, speaking of copywriting, Clayton Makepeace (another GREAT direct response copywwriter) is giving away some goodies for the holidays. You can get them here: http://www.makepeacetotalpackage.com/bonus/holiday-referral-signup.html

    And, because of my continual learning, things have started to come together. We launched our first, original website eleven weeks ago to honor the men & women of our Armed Forces. Our Alexa rank is now just a touch over one million, having jumped up in rank over 16 million spots!

    Now, I can really materialize my dreams!

    Best,

    -K
    http://www.for-the-troops.com/shop/
    10% of after-tax preoceeds goes to military charities!

    * Kevin, keep it up! You’re taking the steps you need to get you going where you want to be. Congratulations and Happy Holidays! – Y.S. *

  25. December 25, 2008, 11:17 pm

    Hey Yanik,

    Thanks for the post.

    You’re link to your instantsalesletter is missing a “t” and thus broken.

    Headsup.

    ~Hoo

  26. December 26, 2008, 10:39 pm

    I think you are right and I will add one more to it, money and weight loss both only amplify who you already are. Why do I say this?
    A person that is good, will only be a better person if they have money. They will study more, donate more of their time and money, come up with ways to teach others and make others give more to their community. The same goes for a nice person that looses weight. They will volunteer to help others loose weight…they see the weight as a journey they HAD to take to be a better person.
    A person that is not nice with money or weight loss? They are still pretty bratty no matter what. Those are the people that are so full of themselves, they don’t want to share in their money or WHAT THEY LEARNED to get to where they are at. In the end, they are not wealthy, because there is no wealth in the heart.
    As far as your question goes, I believe that maybe things are motivators to some, and material things may not be as important to others. But money does provide you the means to do nice things, for yourself and others, and that is a big motivator. As I get older (I am now 42), I realize that material things are not that interesting to me, but the idea of having money to go back to college or take a language course, and then travel to a distant land, is all the motivation I need to get my butt in gear in 2009.
    Thanks for your blog, and may the new year bring you lots of great adventures.

  27. December 28, 2008, 11:18 pm

    Yanik,

    Just a quick note about this post.

    I think the reason the ‘things’ are a big motivator in the beginning is because they are REAL and tangible. It’s a lot easier to picture yourself driving a car or having a cooler watch – because you have reference points for that. Then you can build on the steps you took to get those things, to accomplish bigger, more impactful goals. But it started with something ‘real’ to latch on to.

    Even though you claimed to be ‘high’ on pain killers…this is one of your best posts yet. I’ve heard you speak about success, wealth, biz, life, etc…but the clarity in the end of your post is a new high for you (no pun intended). This is good stuff dude – especially the amplification part.

    Keep it coming…see you next week!

    Chris :)

  28. January 7, 2009, 2:29 am

    I have been following along with you for a while.

    i have grabbed alot of your products and have learned a ton.

    I know that all my wants have only been the tracks to getting where I am so far.
    I still want more and my train is steadily moving forward.

    I want to do a few more things that I have yet to set up and start moving in those directions but they are my wants and are closer than ever before.

    Keep it up yanik and I know I will be part of your maverick insider for a long time to come and hopefully become part of the maverick adventures as well.

    Jeff jowers

  29. Ryne Landers
    February 11, 2009, 4:00 pm

    Hi Yanik. I am signed up for the Underground 5 program here in February. I can tell you a little about my background. When I was younger, I grew up in several different situations. There was a time, when my parents were both broke, and I was very young. I remember my dad founded his own business in California, and he busted hump every day to get it off the ground. He had just been let go by his employer, and with his back against the wall, he was forced to create his own way. At that time, we lived in a dangerous neighborhood. I was, of course unaware of this at the time. But I feel that my parents drive to create a better life has passed down to me.

    Throughout school, I had a disability in my leg that forced me to ware a corrective brace. As you can imagine, kids were not kind. Now, I’m not ugly or fat. I’m a healthy, tall (6’4”) young man, who is attractive. But this is many years later. My point in this is that I’m not some case study for pity. But the other point is that, because of the difficulties in my early life, I was determined to be better than anyone else. I consistently outperformed 90% of my classmates in everything scholastic. I played sports too. I was not the best, but I was involved.

    Recently, I made the move to Dallas. I have been here now nearly 2 years. Working for a major telecom in sales, I was in a very competitive environment. I was able to provide for myself very comfortably. Being a single guy of just 21, and working in retail, I was making over $65,000 a year. I consider this pretty good, all things considered. While working there, I had a goal to get a new car. I had an “arch competitor”, someone who constantly goaded me and competed to be better than me. His goal was to get an Infiniti G35. I made that my goal too. I am happy to announce that last year, I was able to go out and qualify for the Infiniti G35 I wanted! It was a midnight blue sedan, with a 300hp V6, navigation (a rare find), leather, powered seats, wood paneling (another, very rare find) and the sun roof. It had so much more luxury than any car I have ever had. I was instantly in love. More over, I got the car before my competitor! Unfortunately, I have terrible credit stemming from a couple of mistakes on my part, and some things I had co-signed for other people. My payments were to be over $500/ month. I could afford it, but that is just too ridiculous. I had to return my coveted G35. It was a very emotional time for me, as the thing that I wanted the most, was in my grasp, and I was forced to let it go. It was one of the most difficult things I have ever done. The temptation to sign the final paper work, and seal my fate was very, very tempting.

    Today, I have set my sights higher. I am looking forward to the M35, which is quickly becoming affordable to me. I cannot wait to get it. I feel that since I was able to achieve one goal last year, I should set my sights higher this year. I very much believe that material, tangible things are motivators for us. I know that the motivation to own something different and unique from other people in my demographic has pushed me many times over the years. But material things, or things for myself are not my only motivation. I have also spent a lot of my money on friends and family, and I give very generously when I have the ability.

    Unfortunately, I have become recently unemployed, after being on-track to clear more than $120k this year. However, this means that now, I have the time and clarity of mind to pursue some new ideas. There are so many. I just need to figure out where to start.

    But where ever I start, it is the pursuit of the things, both tangible, and intangible, that will provide the drive that I need.

    A last quote: “I’ll make it to the Moon if I have to crawl”- Red Hot Chili Peppers.

    * Ryne, looking forward to seeing you next week. I can tell you’ve got the ambition and drive to take the info from the event and create a real breakthrough. -Y.S. *

  30. Ahmad
    February 26, 2009, 5:56 am

    MAKING money is not immoral or sinful, (unless you make it by treacherous means).

    Thats just something the TRULY poor say… those whose SOULS are poor, not just that, they stink too. They’re worthless pieces of shit themselves and are only envious of other’s success and the fact that they can’t succeed themselves coz they’re too busy bitching about others and burning at their success. No two ways about it.

    Neither being poor nor being rich are honorable in and of themselves.

    What is honorable is (in that order):

    1) BEING CONTENT AND THANKFUL in one’s lot, (example – the people you mentioned Yanik who don’t take a liking to excessive material goodies)

    1b) if one really is in a rut, competing against ONE’s OWN SELF to win against HIS/HER situation. (example – what Ryne Landers says about her parents)

    1 and 1b are closely related and I dont equate 1b to point 2 below.

    2) In some other cases competing against your own self just for the satisfaction of breaking your own personal record. It IS thrilling to some people to outperform themselves. (example – the owner of this blog, YS, or so I think). This is the BEST and most rewarding form of competition.

    3) Competing (ethically) against others if the situation really demands it. (example – Pepsi and Coca cola)

    This is what I believe is the formula for successful and happy living, as I understand it as taught by my religion.

    I don’t see anything honorable in wanting to be someone else or competing against someone else in their material goodies just to put them down or to be able to say to oneself “YS has a Merc, and I got one too now!”. So what if person X has car B? I should only be concerned about what makes ME happy (ethically and morally). There is NO happiness in doing what one doesn’t like. Its dishonorable to compete with someone and do something one doesn’t like just to stroke one’s ego.

    Competing with yourself, you’d do what you DO like and are happy with, so there’s a difference.

    Its even more dishonorable to be envious of someone more “successful” than you and talk trash about their accomplishments just coz you dont have them.

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